Clearly it is better to try to get your relationship back on track before it goes as far as a divorce but often it is not possible. However just because the break up has gone through does not mean that it is impossible to get your ex girlfriend back. In any relationship there are a wide variety of reasons that may contribute to a break up. Here are some key areas you need to look at.
REASON 1
Had you started to take your girlfriend and relationship for granted? This is one of the major reasons for relationship break downs. It is too easy to stop paying a loved one the attention they need. Communication, on all levels, is critical. Talking as well as listening. Be honest with yourself here and try to recall the last time you told your girlfriend you loved her? Gave her a cuddle? Said “thank you” for a lovely meal? Took her out? Despite popular opinion to the opposite, women are easily pleased if only men would realise it. A little attention and appreciation goes a long long way.
REASON 2
Did you treat your ex as an equal? Did you help around the house? Another major reason for breakdowns is the fact that too many men treat their girlfriend's like their mothers and expect everything done for them around the house. Household chores should be shared especially if both of you are working. No woman wants to “mother” their partner. Were YOU guilty of this?
REASON 3
Were either of you unfaithful? The breakdown of trust causes many problems and if either of you were unfaithful then you have a long journey to take. However the most important things to do are to sever all connections with the third party and to apologise. Sounds easy (though its not) but men should realise that saying “sorry” will go a long way but is something that men historically are very bad at doing.
Whilst these are some of the key reasons for relationship breakdowns there are more but it is important to note that relationships can be rebuilt over time.
Wednesday, 23 July 2008
How To Increase Attraction - Part 2
4.) Wealth
Ok, this one is a little controversial, people who think like this are usually considered to be “shallow”, however, I’m going to tell you that nearly everyone thinks about it on some level.
I’m sure you know that there are women out there who are looking for rich men, looking for men to take care of them (financially), they are often called “gold diggers”.
Well, even if that’s not the sole interest of a woman, it’s still a factor, in other words, a guy with a bit of cash will usually have an advantage over a guy with not a penny to his name.
This is just another factor of attraction.
5.) Direction/Goals
You’ve probably heard people say things about others like “he’s not going anywhere with his life” or “he’s always going to be a nobody”.
These types of sayings are usually brought on by the way a man is heading with his life, for example, a man who has a minimum wage job and has no intention of getting a better one may have things like this said about him, another guy who is working at a large company with lots of room for promotion, he may not have things like this said about him.
This can apply to other areas of life than work, however, it’s usually related to the occupation a person has and where they are headed.
A man who has goals and is working towards achieving those goals is often more attractive than a man with no goals or direction.
6.) Grooming - Fashion
This is one of the more obvious factors of attraction.
This is simply how you take care of your physical appearance and present yourself, things like:
How you style your hair
Your complexion
The way you dress
Basically just taking care of your physical appearance and trying to look your best.
Again, I’ll use an example, in most cases, a guy wearing some nice clothes and with a clean face and good hair style will have more success with the ladies than a slob who hasn’t washed in a week and is wearing a pair of baggy trousers and T-shirt.
Those are six of, in my opinion, the most important factors when it comes to attraction. There are many, many factors involved, far too many to list them all here, however, those six should be a great focus point for you at the moment.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this section, a lot of it comes down to raw physical appearance, I mean, like I said, men are naturally attracted to beautiful women and vice versa.
You may think you are not a great looking guy, however, you can make a huge difference with some simple little things.
Have you ever seen one of those makeover shows on television?
They take a “normal” person and transform them into a beauty, well, a lot of the people they use really are, in my opinion, ugly when they first appear but at the end of the show, they look great.
Think about it, they didn’t give them plastic surgery to change their actual face, no, it’s just a change in presentation that makes such a difference.
Here’s some simple tips for you to work on your physical appearance:
Wash your face regularly to keep it clean.
If you look better with no facial hair then shave everyday.
Dress nicely - This one’s so easy yet some guys are just too lazy to even put on a nice shirt in the morning.
Workout - This is one of my top recommendations, it can have more benefits than just simply improving the appearance of your body, it can boost your self-esteem too.
Test different hairstyles - Some guys keep the same boring hair style for years and years, they don’t even think to try out different styles.
Those are just some things you can think about when it comes to working on your physical appearance.
You should remember that it’s not entirely down to physical appearance, so don’t get too discouraged by that.
When it comes to getting an ex girlfriend to come back to you, you already know that she is attracted to you on some level simply because of the fact that she was with you before.
You just need to work on increasing the attraction levels she already has for you.
Ok, this one is a little controversial, people who think like this are usually considered to be “shallow”, however, I’m going to tell you that nearly everyone thinks about it on some level.
I’m sure you know that there are women out there who are looking for rich men, looking for men to take care of them (financially), they are often called “gold diggers”.
Well, even if that’s not the sole interest of a woman, it’s still a factor, in other words, a guy with a bit of cash will usually have an advantage over a guy with not a penny to his name.
This is just another factor of attraction.
5.) Direction/Goals
You’ve probably heard people say things about others like “he’s not going anywhere with his life” or “he’s always going to be a nobody”.
These types of sayings are usually brought on by the way a man is heading with his life, for example, a man who has a minimum wage job and has no intention of getting a better one may have things like this said about him, another guy who is working at a large company with lots of room for promotion, he may not have things like this said about him.
This can apply to other areas of life than work, however, it’s usually related to the occupation a person has and where they are headed.
A man who has goals and is working towards achieving those goals is often more attractive than a man with no goals or direction.
6.) Grooming - Fashion
This is one of the more obvious factors of attraction.
This is simply how you take care of your physical appearance and present yourself, things like:
How you style your hair
Your complexion
The way you dress
Basically just taking care of your physical appearance and trying to look your best.
Again, I’ll use an example, in most cases, a guy wearing some nice clothes and with a clean face and good hair style will have more success with the ladies than a slob who hasn’t washed in a week and is wearing a pair of baggy trousers and T-shirt.
Those are six of, in my opinion, the most important factors when it comes to attraction. There are many, many factors involved, far too many to list them all here, however, those six should be a great focus point for you at the moment.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this section, a lot of it comes down to raw physical appearance, I mean, like I said, men are naturally attracted to beautiful women and vice versa.
You may think you are not a great looking guy, however, you can make a huge difference with some simple little things.
Have you ever seen one of those makeover shows on television?
They take a “normal” person and transform them into a beauty, well, a lot of the people they use really are, in my opinion, ugly when they first appear but at the end of the show, they look great.
Think about it, they didn’t give them plastic surgery to change their actual face, no, it’s just a change in presentation that makes such a difference.
Here’s some simple tips for you to work on your physical appearance:
Wash your face regularly to keep it clean.
If you look better with no facial hair then shave everyday.
Dress nicely - This one’s so easy yet some guys are just too lazy to even put on a nice shirt in the morning.
Workout - This is one of my top recommendations, it can have more benefits than just simply improving the appearance of your body, it can boost your self-esteem too.
Test different hairstyles - Some guys keep the same boring hair style for years and years, they don’t even think to try out different styles.
Those are just some things you can think about when it comes to working on your physical appearance.
You should remember that it’s not entirely down to physical appearance, so don’t get too discouraged by that.
When it comes to getting an ex girlfriend to come back to you, you already know that she is attracted to you on some level simply because of the fact that she was with you before.
You just need to work on increasing the attraction levels she already has for you.
How To Increase Attraction - Part 1
A HUGE part of getting an ex girlfriend back and in the world of dating in general is just basic old attraction.
Think about it, what’s the first thing you notice about a woman when you look at her, it’s how attractive she is.
It can be very easily summed up like this:
Men are attracted to attractive women.
Women are attracted to attractive men.
Now, this can sometimes be based entirely on a person’s face and body, I mean, when you see a model posing in a magazine with an amazing body and beautiful face, you’re instantly attracted to her.
So, if you’re a good looking guy then you instantly have an advantage, however, that’s not everything.
Now, there are, of course, other factors involved when it comes to increasing attraction, some may seem quite superficial or shallow, however, you should still think about them.
1.) Social Image
This one is at play pretty much all the time and yet very few people actually realise it.
Let me give you an example, two guys in a club with equal levels of physical attraction, one guy is sitting alone in the corner, the other is sitting in the middle with a bunch of friends and women around him, which one do you think has the better social image?
Obviously it’s the second one, he is showing that he is quite a “popular” guy, he has plenty of friends and there are women with him, maybe even chasing him, this guy looks more promising than the loner sitting in the corner.
That’s about as simple as I can explain it. Social image is at play all the time, everywhere you go, everyone you’re with, how people talk about you, stories about you, how people look at you and so on.
If you’re known as being a “popular” guy, then you have an advantage.
2.) Sense Of Humour
Yes, this is one of the more commonly known ones, I’m sure you’ve probably heard people say that a good sense of humour is very important when it comes to attraction and dating.
Well, simply put, a good sense of humour is certainly a good quality.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to go around telling jokes to everyone you meet or anything like that. It also doesn’t mean that you have to be a comedian to get any interest from a woman.
It’s just another factor involved in attraction, if you’re a funny guy with a good sense of humour, use that, let people know that you’re fun to be around by being fun when you’re around them.
3.) Passion
This is one that I think is very important.
If you’re passionate about things, about life, then it will naturally show to the people you interact with.
Let me give you an example for this, there are two guys with equal levels of physical attraction, one guy is lazy and doesn’t really have any interest or passion for anything other than sitting in front of the television, the other guy has a passion for exercising, cars, insert passion here.
Who do you think will be more attractive to women, the lazy guy sitting watching T.V. or the passionate guy out doing what he loves and achieving his goals?
Remember, they are both as physically attractive as each other.
You see the point I’m making.
Think about it, what’s the first thing you notice about a woman when you look at her, it’s how attractive she is.
It can be very easily summed up like this:
Men are attracted to attractive women.
Women are attracted to attractive men.
Now, this can sometimes be based entirely on a person’s face and body, I mean, when you see a model posing in a magazine with an amazing body and beautiful face, you’re instantly attracted to her.
So, if you’re a good looking guy then you instantly have an advantage, however, that’s not everything.
Now, there are, of course, other factors involved when it comes to increasing attraction, some may seem quite superficial or shallow, however, you should still think about them.
1.) Social Image
This one is at play pretty much all the time and yet very few people actually realise it.
Let me give you an example, two guys in a club with equal levels of physical attraction, one guy is sitting alone in the corner, the other is sitting in the middle with a bunch of friends and women around him, which one do you think has the better social image?
Obviously it’s the second one, he is showing that he is quite a “popular” guy, he has plenty of friends and there are women with him, maybe even chasing him, this guy looks more promising than the loner sitting in the corner.
That’s about as simple as I can explain it. Social image is at play all the time, everywhere you go, everyone you’re with, how people talk about you, stories about you, how people look at you and so on.
If you’re known as being a “popular” guy, then you have an advantage.
2.) Sense Of Humour
Yes, this is one of the more commonly known ones, I’m sure you’ve probably heard people say that a good sense of humour is very important when it comes to attraction and dating.
Well, simply put, a good sense of humour is certainly a good quality.
Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to go around telling jokes to everyone you meet or anything like that. It also doesn’t mean that you have to be a comedian to get any interest from a woman.
It’s just another factor involved in attraction, if you’re a funny guy with a good sense of humour, use that, let people know that you’re fun to be around by being fun when you’re around them.
3.) Passion
This is one that I think is very important.
If you’re passionate about things, about life, then it will naturally show to the people you interact with.
Let me give you an example for this, there are two guys with equal levels of physical attraction, one guy is lazy and doesn’t really have any interest or passion for anything other than sitting in front of the television, the other guy has a passion for exercising, cars, insert passion here.
Who do you think will be more attractive to women, the lazy guy sitting watching T.V. or the passionate guy out doing what he loves and achieving his goals?
Remember, they are both as physically attractive as each other.
You see the point I’m making.
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